The Right Time for Children

Thursday, 09-25-2014

My lecture this evening in Arlington, Virginia

Sometimes married grad students ask me when is the right time to have children.  After I get my degree?  After my wife gets hers (or my husband gets his)?  After I land a teaching job?  After I win tenure?  After I am established in my field?  You see how it goes; the right time never comes.

My suggestion:  Children change us.  Don’t wait to have children when the right time has come; the time becomes right when you have them.  If you were ready for marriage, you are ready for children.  Stop waiting.  Stop dithering.  Just begin.

 

How Is This Not Incoherent? No. 2

Wednesday, 09-24-2014

The same people often assert both of the following propositions:

#1:  I may have intercourse with anyone at any time whenever I feel desire, because I am only a body.

#2:  It doesn’t matter whether I am having intercourse with the opposite sex, the same sex, or Martians, because I am not defined by my body.

 

An Almost Universal Law

Tuesday, 09-23-2014

We don’t often stop believing in God, then start looking for new sins to commit.  We become attached to sins we don’t want to give up, then start looking for reasons not to believe in God.

 

The Chemistry of Justin Bieber

Monday, 09-22-2014

My lecture later this week in Arlington, Virginia

Evidence is piling up that women are attracted to different kinds of men when they are in the fertile phase of their monthly cycle than when they aren’t.  When ovulating, they more strongly prefer men who are masculine, intelligent, and competitive with other men.  By “smoothing” hormone levels throughout the cycle, the oral contraceptive pill cancels out the monthly surge in preference for men with these qualities.  To put it another way, female use of the pill is good news for males who are less masculine, less intelligent, and less competitive.

Men, in turn, find women most attractive precisely when they are most fertile.  By suppressing ovulation, the pill makes a woman’s average attractiveness to men over the monthly cycle lower than it would have been otherwise.

Must I list all the reasons why this is disturbing?

(Summarizing the results of Alexandra Alvergne and Virpi Lummaa, “Does the Contraceptive Pill Affect Mate Choice in Humans?”  Trends in Ecology and Evolution, Vol. 30, No. 10.)

 

Public and Private Vices

Sunday, 09-21-2014

Most Americans say that “private” moral character doesn’t affect fitness for public office.  Yet though many will vote for an adulterer, far fewer will vote for a wife-beater.

What this shows is that they do think moral character affects fitness for public office.  They merely don’t consider marriage vows important enough.

The problem lies not in the fact that they distinguish among vices, for some really are worse than others.  It lies in where they draw the lines, for it is hard to believe that a candidate will keep faith with his constituents if he cannot keep faith with his wife.

“He who is void of virtuous attachments in private life is, or very soon will be, void of all regard of his country.  There is seldom an instance of a man guilty of betraying his country who had not before lost the feeling of moral obligations in his private connections.”  --  Samuel Adams to James Warren, 4 November 1775.

 

Good Bias

Saturday, 09-20-2014

Rules are necessarily biased; bias is in the nature of a rule. The rules of baseball are tilted in favor of skill, because skillful competition is what baseball is about; the rules of education, in favor of knowledge, because the extension of knowledge is what education is about.  Rules can and should be fair.  But the notion that fairness means neutrality is a fallacy.

But surely laws should be unbiased, shouldn’t they?  Certainly not.  Laws should be biased toward the common good, the first element of which is justice.  Lady Justice is blindfolded not because she has no criterion, but because she is blind toward all other criteria.  She uses her scales, not her eyes.

 

Three Kinds of Doubt

Friday, 09-19-2014

Pauline doubt, which tests everything in order to hold fast to what is good, is hard work.  But it does not doubt that there is a good to be found, and does not doubt the standards for the test.

Cartesian doubt, which doubts everything except what literally cannot be doubted, is not honest.  If it were, it would admit that there is nothing which cannot be doubted, not even the famous cogito, ergo sum.  So it could never even begin to advance toward the truth.

But the cool, relativist doubt of our own time, which is content to believe that no one can know the truth anyway, is lazy and incoherent:  Incoherent, because it claims to know nothing can be known; lazy, because it no longer bothers to seek knowledge.